“Why do you pretend to talk like Deefer?” Oliver asked.
Turns out ventriloquating (a technical term) for your dog is very common. Linguist Deborah Tannen calls it “talking dog.”
We think of it as translating the thoughts you’re having, Deef. Adding color to the commentary we see running in that head of yours:
In July 2022, we visited Bray. You come out of the DART station, follow the little alleys with a Chinese, a coffee shop, a casino. Suddenly, the alley opens up, and you’re there on the Strand. Three big planters and wooden benches sit in front of Bray’s aquarium. Finbees coffee house tucked in next to it, separating you from the ocean.
It has a Manhattan Beach vibe (we’ll go there someday), but replace the volleyball nets with little huts selling 99’s with all the toppings.
Once, we were out at lunch and Uncle Paul was sitting down. A couple walked in and they stood at the host’s stand, waiting to be seated. I watched him get up, shuffle over to them, grab menus, and show them to an open table.
Today, I’ll show you 10 practical tips for moving abroad.
These tips could save you thousands of dollars and dozens of hours in a single year.
Without further ado, let’s dive into the tips.
Today, I’m going to show you how to get (and stay) fit while working remotely.
In a world of diet fads and 60-second abs, I’ll walk through a habit-based approach that focuses on adherence.
(In other words, this approach helps you stick with fitness.)
Here’s what most remote work advocates don’t talk about…
How easily bad fitness habits form when you work remotely:
In today’s post, you’ll learn how to plan an international move over the course of a year.
As I write this, my family is less than 90 days out from our next international move.
It’s easy for a move like this to land on someone’s bucket list…
And stay there.
They have:
But execution happens over a long timeline, with seemingly nebulous tasks.
While there’s no “right way” to make this move, I find having a timeline of “concepts” helpful.
Concepts are approaches to solve problems. “To dos” and checklists change depending on your circumstances; concepts are universal.
I’ve compiled these concepts from my notes over the past:
By following this guide, I hope it gets you started to make a similar move.
Concept 1/ Ask: “What am I optimizing for?
When we moved to Europe, we decided to optimize for adventure.
Optimizing for adventure comes with tradeoffs:
We decided these tradeoffs were worth it.
In the next move, we’re optimizing for learning.
See, we think someday we’ll settle in the states. We have no idea where, but we have some criteria:
That doesn’t leave a lot of choices!
We decided now is the time to test different US cities against that hypothesis.
Takeaway: Ask: what are you optimizing for?
Concept 2/ Plan in 2-year timelines
I’m a schemer. A planner. I love thinking about life in 10-year blocks.
This is a big mistake.
Trying to solve 10-year problems when considering this move is like injecting yourself with a paralyzing agent. You’ll freeze.
When Amy and I started planning our move, we had all these questions we couldn’t answer, like:
Your circumstances will change quickly. Leave tomorrow’s problems for tomorrow.
I’ve found 2 years to be the sweet spot between present in the now, and building for the future.
Takeaway: Where do you see yourself in 2 years?
Concept 3/ One foot in the known, one foot in the unknown
There’s a big difference between a 2 week holiday and 2 years living abroad while working (and possibly, raising children).
The move itself will lead to countless unknowns: country, friends, foods, brands, routine, working hours, etc.
Balance it out with knowns. Here’s what that looked like for our recent moves:
Takeaway: What knowns do you want to keep? What unknowns do you want to face?
Concept 4/ Prioritize so hard it hurts
Now is the time to start getting answers to the big unknowns.
That requires deep research.
Write down all your burning questions about the move. Take a week to do this. Don’t rush.
Then prioritize them in order of most to least importance. Examples:
Here’s the dirty secret: you won’t get to your whole list. You won’t have every question answered. Some questions you’ll have to take a flyer on.
That’s why you prioritize, to make sure you answer the right questions first.
Takeaway: Write down, then prioritize, your burning questions.
Concept 5/ Boots on the ground
You’ve got your list of prioritized questions.
Deep research on the Internet will cover some of it.
But to get in the weeds, you need boots on the ground. People living in your destination who can help you with reconnaissance work.
Fortunately, thanks to social media, there’s someone sitting in your network who can answer them.
You’ll find them on:
Most people overthink this. People are happy to help people who take action. Be one of those people.
Takeaway: Find people who can help you with your move and start asking your burning questions.
Concept 6/ Run the math, see the future
Before a big move, understand your burn: how much spend, how much you earn, and how long you can sustain that.
Get it 80% directionally correct. You don’t need to know where every cent is going.
At a bare minimum, calculate:
You can make the math more complicated to increase your confidence, but do these 3 calculations at a bare minimum to help you “peek” into the future.
Takeaway: Calculate your burn rate by subtracting your expenses from your income.
Concept 7/ Lock in your decisions
It’s time to start locking in your choices.
Start with the big three:
Employment. Make sure your employer is on board. Verify they’re OK with your move. Get it in writing if you need.
Location. Narrow this down as tight as you can.
If you know the continent, pick a country.
If you know the country, pick a city.
Got a city? Pick a neighborhood.
You won’t lock in the apartment/house for a few more months. But get as close as you can.
Schools. If you have a family, get ahead on the plan for schooling. There are zoning restrictions and wait lists to consider.
Takeaway: Confirm and verify the big three: where you’ll work, where you’ll live, and where your kids will go to school.
Concept 8/ Burn the boats
Start wrapping up loose ends in your current home.
You don’t need everything buttoned up, but have a game plan.
Takeaway: Get closure on this chapter of your life before you start the next one.
Concept 9/ Accept the nebulous fear
Some unknowns you won’t be able to clarify.
All the ducks won’t be in a row
Not everything will be ideal.
You have to commit anyway.
Every move, every city has its dysfunctions. This is a game of figuring out which dysfunctions you can live with.
Acknowledge the nebulous fear. But don’t let it stop you from creating the life you want to live.
Takeaway: Acknowledge the unanswered questions you have. Then commit to your decisions anyway.
Concept 10/ What you own owns you
Move lightly.
The less you try and schlep with you, the freer you are in this world.
Your things aren’t just physical baggage, but emotional as well.
Worrying about “stuff” takes bandwidth. It causes stress.
I’ve found two things to be true:
Takeaway: Sell as much as possible to simplify the move. Most things you can replace inexpensively.
Concept 11/ Go fast to go fast
Sometimes you go slow to go fast.
Examples: big picture thinking, strategic planning, investing, etc.
When you’re 3 months out from your move, go fast to go fast.
90 days is less time than you think.
No matter how well you planned this out, the last week is a mad dash.
There’s one way to make this more tolerable:
Start sprinting earlier.
Takeaway: When in doubt, take action.
Concept 12/ Only the paranoid survive.
One of my favorite little hacks:
I have a countdown timer on my phone. It tells me how many days until the move.
When I’m 90 days from the move, I look at this. Every. Single. Day.
If I catch myself:
I look at this screen and take one small action.
Is it a bit manic? Sure.
But I want that mania spread out over the next 3 months, not the final 3 days.
Takeaway: Physically and viscerally remind yourself everyday that you’re one day closer to your move. Then act accordingly.
This timeline isn’t an exhaustive checklist of todos. There are dozens of nuances for your unique circumstances.
But I promise you that thinking about these concepts will prepare you for your move than even the most robust checklist.
Give this process a try. Ask the right questions. Build your own personal checklist as you go along.
If you execute against it, you’ll end up exactly where you’re meant to be.
Today, I’m going to teach you how to get 10+ remote role interviews in 30 days.
Job searching takes a toll. There’s the obvious financial cost. There’s also a deeper emotional cost:
Sometimes, you need a quick win, like interviewing for a role, to build momentum and confidence.
Unfortunately, landing an interview is part of a long process in the job funnel:
Today I’m sharing my favorite way to make big life decisions.
From:
There’s no “right way” to make these decisions. But I found this model simplifies the decision-making process and reduces anxiety.
No pro and con lists.
No sleepless nights.
By answering a simple question, you can remove complexity from similar life decisions.
In this post, you’ll learn 3 ways to build a portfolio that’ll make you recession proof.
The tech layoffs caught a lot of employees off guard.
The volume. The marquee names affected.
But how they happened is the most shocking.
In this post, I’ll show you the exact steps I’d use today to land a remote job, using LinkedIn.
In July 2022, remote jobs made up 16% of job postings on LinkedIn.
Yet attracted 53% of the applications.
Competition is fierce. You need a consistent way to stand out.
Most people think you do this with a word-perfect resume or crafting a beautiful, bespoke cover letter.
They’re wrong.
In the last decade, I’ve landed 5 remote jobs.
Here’s how you can do the same.