tl;dr Be honest about what’s working. Change what isn’t. Stop holding on to the idea of who you used to be (or who you’re supposed to be).

I set a 5 a.m. alarm for years. I haven’t actually woken up at 5 a.m. since Madeline was born.

I know because I write it down. I keep a daily journal in Roam, and going through it, the same note is sitting there on page after page:

Tried for 5:00, snoozed. Up at 6:30.

Tried for 5:00, snoozed. Go to bed earlier.

Went to bed at 10 pm. Still snoozed.

I’ve tried to work the problem. I tried solving it with more alarms: a sunlight alarm, my Nintendo Alarmo, and my phone.

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